• Are you feeling unloved and disconnected?
• Constantly criticized?
• Do you and your partner have the same argument over and over, but nothing ever gets resolved?
• Or you’ve given up fighting and function like roommates, feeling more alone when you’re together than when you’re apart.
• Maybe you’ve been betrayed, and you don’t know how you can trust again.

First — You are not alone. Disconnection haunts many relationships.

Second — Your pain is very real, and it makes perfect sense. As humans, we are hard-wired for connection, for healthy interdependence. When you lose connection with the most important person in your life, your system gets flooded with emotional distress signals. When our core relationships are broken, we feel broken.

Third — Things can change. Couples therapy transforms relationships. The kind of marriage counseling I practice can save marriages.

Improving your relationships is one of the most powerful ways you can improve your life. I help clients reduce conflict and restore loving connection using a proven therapeutic model called Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is an evidence-based approach with a track record for helping couples, families, and individuals. The therapy is built on the science of attachment, a well-researched field of study that has revealed the basic need for bonding that we all share.

For clients impacted by trauma, I integrate EMDR and IFS trauma therapies to expedite and deepen healing. EMDR, the best researched trauma therapy intervention, taps into the brain’s natural healing mechanisms to encourage processing and integration of life’s most difficult experiences. IFS is an evidence-based trauma model that guides clients on a path toward Self-leadership, where their innate compassion and curiosity comes into healing connection with every aspect of their being.

And as a sex-positive kink-friendly AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I embrace the myriad ways pleasure and eroticism can support individual flourishing and interpersonal bonding.

Secure, fun, loving connection is the cornerstone of mental health. If any relationship in your life needs repair, attachment-informed therapy can help.

Sex Therapy

Has sex turned into a chore to be completed or a minefield to be avoided? So many of my clients yearn for greater sexual fulfillment, but attempts to discuss physical intimacy with their partner often lead to explosive fights or painful silences. I help couples learn to communicate their sexual desires and transform sex into an opportunity for pleasure, connection, and fun.

If you’re struggling with a specific issue, like desire differences, ED, physical discomfort, or a trauma history, we’ll target our work to the root causes and find new ways to move you from distress and anxiety to pleasure and play.

For individual sex therapy clients, my works focuses on creating a healthy relationship with your own sexuality and identity, often by treating sexual shame and healing sexual trauma. Whatever cultural and religious beliefs shape your life, we can explore how your authentic sexual self can blossom in alignment with your core values.

As a sex-positive, kink-friendly therapist, I embrace the myriad ways pleasure and eroticism can feed human flourishing. I also support folks who want to explore or strengthen consensually non-monogamous relationships.

Individual Relationship & Trauma Counseling

Often the relationship that causes the most pain is the one we have with ourselves. Trauma-informed relational therapy, a blend of attachment science with EMDR and IFS trauma modalities, can tap into your innate healing wisdom.

EMDR, the best researched trauma therapy intervention, taps into the brain’s natural healing mechanisms to encourage processing and integration of life’s most difficult experiences. IFS is an evidence-based trauma model that guides clients on a path toward Self-leadership, where their innate compassion and curiosity come into healing connection with every aspect of their being.

Through our collaborative journey, we will seek to lovingly nurture your relationship with yourself so you can skillfully navigate your relationships with others.

Supervision

I’m a true believer in the power of EFT and of the importance sex positive training for all clinicians. For pre-licensed clinician and master’s level clinicians in training, I offer affordable group supervision that introduces you to attachment-based interventions and sex therapy clinical skills. While many students come out of their graduate programs eager to broaden their therapeutic toolkit, I also know that many are stretched thin financially and emotionally. So it’s my honor to help new clinicians learn about EFT, sex therapy, IFS and EMDR through inviting, safe, fun, cost efficient group supervision.

New groups are forming now. Reach out if you’re interested.

Warmly,
Macdara MacColl, LMFT
Certified EFT Therapist
Certified AASECT Sex Therapist
EMDR & IFS Trauma Therapist
(And by the way, you can just call me Mac.)

Meet Mac